Missionary Sex Positions
Ahhh, Missionary. Traditionally considered the “default sex position”, Missionary offers lots of advantages to first-timers and people looking for sex that’s more on the vanilla side. However, there are lots of slight variations on it that can amp things up in terms of the pleasure, intensity and kink factor – for both partners. Check out these Missionary-inspired positions:
Coital Alignment Technique
Another spin on Missionary, the Coital Alignment Technique (C.A.T.), aka the Frog or the Perfect Position, looks to sacrifice elevation and power for proper positioning. Start in regular Missionary, and then flatten your torso as much possible, while your partner should arch her legs and put her legs on your butt. What you’re doing here is targeting the clitoris for more direct rubbing and friction. The pressure you put on her clitoris could help her get to orgasm quicker. You should also be staying nice and deep within her in this position, too, to ensure maximum. In other words, it’s more for her pleasure than yours.
Legs On Shoulders
A classic take on Missionary, this one can either be done with you lying down on top of her, or with her positioned at the edge of the bed sex and with you in standing (or more accurately leaning in) with her legs on your shoulders as you penetrate her. This position gives the man all of the control of penetration, but it will also allow for deeper penetration, so it’s a win-win. You may need to grasp her legs and pull in gently to prevent your thrusting from pushing her away from you.
A more extreme variant of the Legs On Shoulders position, this one really puts you in the driver’s seat. Start with your torso more or less vertical and her legs on your shoulders. Descend slowly until you’re basically folding her in half. For more leverage, you can reach around her back with your arms and pull her tightly against you. This one is very intimate, but it also gives her very little mobility, so it’s basically you who is 100% in charge of the thrusting. The pressure you’re putting on her muscles can also create a tightness in her pelvis, leading to an increased tighter feel for you. You should make sure she’s flexible enough to pull this one off – many women health aren’t – and keep in mind you’ll probably be able to pull this off for just a few minutes.
Swivel And Grind
If you’re working with a little bit less than the average man, the Swivel and Grind is your friend. Instead of the ol’ in-and-out pumping, which is actually better for you than it is for her, once you’re inside her, use your hip rotation to grind and twist inside of her, pressing your shaft as hard as you can against her clitoris. The friction and pressure will be what brings her to orgasm, no matter what your size. To get maximum closeness, Missionary with legs on shoulders works best. You may also want to consider propping up her hips on a pillow or wedge (you can find specially made ones) to create the perfect angle.
Finally, discard the pile of fantasies that turn a partner off. Keep the other two piles. Have one partner choose a card from one of them, and then do whatever’s written on it. If he chooses this time, you get to choose next time. If the chosen fantasy Masturbating is one you both want to keep a fantasy, you don’t have to actually do it — just make love as you talk about it. Example: He picks the fantasy where he makes love to you and another woman (most men’s number one choice). Start to make love while both of you describe, in exquisite carnal detail, who’s doing what to whom and how.
Bring a toy into bed
Sex toys up the ante on pleasure. We’re not necessarily talking about a giant dildo or anal beads (unless you want to!); a simple finger vibe will do. They are non-scary, fun add-ons to your already wonderful sex life.
A small finger vibrator is ideal for both clitoral stimulation and a little ball sack/perineum love. It’s a fabulous addition to any sexual experience and, not to be dramatic, but they make for mindbending orgasmic awakenings
Make a super sexy fantasy come true
Take mental notes whenever you partner mentions a fantasy he or she has. Does he want to play the handy man who arrives to fix your pipes? Is she a police officer here to investigate a noise complaint?
You don’t have to hit up a costume store and buy a full outfit if you don’t want to. You can easily make a costume from things lying around your house. Half of fantasy is the imagination. This role play surprise will not only turn your partner on, but will make him or her feel appreciated since you really listened.